The Poverty Mentality is an attitude wherein the focus of a person is on what he does not have rather than on what he has.

The second session of Money 4 Life workshop I attended at Brighter Life Institute last July 16 was actually entitled “Planning and Managing Expenses,” but the point I most remember that day was financial expert Aya Laraya’s statement that we should not equate investment with deprivation.

That made me ask myself if our financial decisions lately had, in effect, deprived our children. So far we’re still okay, but we’re threading thin lines.

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But isn’t that a common notion? That sacrifices have to be made in order to achieve bigger goals? It is what it is, especially for the lower middle class, but it doesn’t have to be that way all the time. Some successes in life are achieved without too much drama.

One of the things I like about Aya is that he teaches, not only the process, but he also tries to break wrong mindsets about finances. For this one, it’s the poverty mentality.

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Let me now share with you the 7 principles on planning and managing expenses that I’ve learned from him at session 2:

1. Track your expenses 

Jay and I have jotted down our expenses using the Brighter Life Institute online forms, but Aya Laraya pointed out that we should make use of technology already available for accomplishing such things. So I downloaded the app he recommended — Wally, then started inputting our cash inflow and expenses.

Here’s a peek at what we spent on the past few days:

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In case you’re curious, the highest expense reflected there is for the kids’ education. Yes, we homeschool but that doesn’t go without expenses. Good education, in any form, does not come cheap.

Anyway, for me, the value of keeping record of your finances is that you can see if you are using your money as responsibly as you think you are. For example, it made us realize that the little expenses such as a tub of ice cream here, a bottled water there, hotdogs on stick here — can accumulate into one big expense and cause our budgeting to tip, if we’re not careful about it.

So we agreed that we allot a budget for these so we can regulate our spending better.

2. Be transparent to your Financial Advisor

“If you don’t give your financial advisor the right facts, they will resort to and advise you based on the default inflation model.”

Aya Laraya  showed us the current inflation model which is not only outdated, but also inapplicable to our family.

I don’t keep secrets from Che Gernandizo, our financial advisor, not on our finances anyway, but this made me realize that I haven’t really given her all the facts that she needed to know to advise me better. So we chatted on Facebook and she agreed to come and see me so we can talk about what we want to achieve 2.O!

I also sent her a copy of our list of monthly expenses and a list of our financial goals prior to our meeting so she can look them over and prepare for it.
financial-advisorChe was able to give me an estimation of how much we need to invest to achieve our 3-year goal. If we deposit a minimum of Php 3,000 a month in a bond fund, we have a better shot at raising the amount we need to fulfill our promise to our kids to take them to Legoland Malaysia, and maybe even go to Universal Studios in Singapore.

Why bond fund? Che explains that when you’re investing for short term, you need to protect your capital and not take too much risks because you know you’ll be using the funds soon. Bond funds fall under low risk investments.

3. Live your life

“When do you plan to live your life? When you’re old?” 

It sounded so funny when Aya said it but think about it…when do you plan to do it? The best time to explore and do the things that you want in life is when you still have the strength and energy to do it.

We also need to think about lost opportunities with our children if we don’t start now. Jay and I want to do a lot of things with our children – mostly take them to see the world. We want to make lasting memories with them. We want them to see many exciting places and give them opportunities to witness and explore different cultures.

Who was it that said, “a vision without action is merely a dream?” So we decided to start investing on that dream.

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4. Going for short-term goals can be a step towards long term goals

I was confused with this one at first since I thought that going for long term goals is the only way to go. But Aya counted “fixation on long term goals” as one of the mistakes investors make.

Aya said that many who are too fixated on long term goals end up failing at it. So do short-term goals first, then work from there.

We already started a mutual fund for our retirement and setting up mutual funds for each of our kids is already in the list of the goals we’ve discussed with Che. However, we’re also starting a bond fund for a short-term goal – our Legoland Malaysia family trip.

Instead of starting a new fund, we will be depositing in our current mutual fund account, but indicating that we’re putting the amount on a bond fund, instead of our retirement’s equity fund.

(READ: How to deposit via Sun Link Online)

5. Put a price on your goal

Most often than not, our family is pretty low-maintenance. But much as DIY travels sound so exciting, when you have three young children with you in a foreign place, there are certain conditions that need to be considered.

For example, I don’t mind sleeping in a transient house in Singapore, but there must be certain standards set on the type of transient house we will stay at. How big is our room? What’s included in the facility? What’s the location? Is it kid-friendly?

I also don’t want to share a room with other travelers. It took me months before I got used to sharing my bed with  my husband, I am not going to sleep in the company of strangers. End of discussion.

It took the three of us two hours, I think, discussing what we would need — from accommodations, plane tickets, food and travel allowance before we agreed on the amount we would need for the trip.

When you have specific guidelines to follow, it’s best to have the cash for it. We set the initial goal at Php 100,000 in three years which is achievable for us.

I realize that we can save Php 108,000 even without putting the money in mutual funds and just by religiously saving Php 3,000 a month, but we have better chances of our money growing if we put it in MF instead of depositing it in a bank.

At Che’s calculation, our investment may grow to Php 116, 000 at 4% annual rate of return, and around Php 180,000 if it does exceptionally well at 20% annual rate of return. What are the chances of our investment getting a 20% annual rate? I don’t really know, but Sun Life Financial is a strong and stable company with good heads behind it, so who knows?

By the way, Che based the minimum amount of investment we should do on our financial data.

(READ: Money Matters: Of Educational Plans and Mutual Funds)

6. Choose an investment package that will meet your goal

Being specific in what you want to achieve is important when you discuss investments with a financial advisor. There are many great investment packages available, but the real question, according to Aya, is will your money do what you want it to do?

You may be investing in many things but if they will not meet your goals or your needs, then there’s no point in investing in them.

There is also your capability to pay that needs to be considered. If you’re younger and have no financial obligations like kids to send to school,or if your other investments are already earning, maybe you can afford to go for higher risk investments.

But if you’re a middle-aged family man who’s just starting out, maybe you should first look into lower risk investments because you have to consider your family who will suffer with you should you end up losing your investment.

Che considered our cash inflow and outflow before presenting to us a package she felt was best for us. We don’t need to deduct it from the money we allot for our food budget or bills or from the kids’ education costs, not even on the money we use for our family activities or for miscellaneous expenses.  Apparently, based on our bills and budget lists, we can afford to invest more.

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7. Know your numbers

Aya Laraya challenges us to know our numbers. He said that he was able to easily adjust his finances when he got married because he knows his numbers. He reminded us that seasons in our lives change, we need to be on top of our finances so that we can apply changes and adjust accordingly.

Aya says we shouldn’t deprive ourselves in the name of investment. He said that we should invest what we can and still enjoy our lives. He even said that if our investments earn, it’s okay to take 30% of it and use it to enjoy with families and friends. What he’s getting at, if I am right, is that we shouldn’t fall victims to greed.

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This is what we’re doing right now. We’re writing down our monthly payables, tracking our daily expenses, listing down our financial goals, arranging our priorities, striving to faithfully deposit into our investment account and trying to live a full life while at it.

I wonder what new things I will learn on our next Money 4 Life workshop. Can’t wait!

62 responses to “Money 4 Life: The poverty mentality”

  1. Melisa Sanchez Avatar

    Such a good read sis, All these tips are very helpful. Budgeting and balancing. In money matters we should be a good steward because God will bless us more. We can live our live with the fullest and enjoy everything we have but we should also think for our futures specially for our family. Set our goal and plans and pray.

  2. Pinknomenal Avatar

    I remember a saying that goes, “work hard now, enjoy later”. Smart tips to guide new parents who are building their family like ours. Thanks. ????

  3. Mommy Anna Avatar

    Thanks for sharing wally app, I also jot down all our expenses, mahirap talaga mag budget if may kid in school,but in my experience mas malaki expense ko sa grocery and food. But I also invested in Sun life :-)

  4. tauyanm Avatar
    tauyanm

    really helpful! i budget the money at home at least, but husband do all the big things since he does teaching in ifinance and business, love ly knowing this

  5. Maria Teresa Figuerres Avatar

    What an informative discussion! I sure learned a lot about money management today. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Ma.Me.Mi.Mommy Avatar

    I am so bad at keeping track of my expenses. I will try to download Wally. Hope I can stick to it! Thinking about when to live life but now does have a point.

  7. Zwitsy Avatar

    Way back when I was still younger, I don’t mind of future not until my son arrives. Now, I am thinking a lot of times on what will I be doing years from now? When is the best time to prepare. This post reminds me of make a change on my financial status. I should be more sensitive and that should be prepared of what could possibly happen.

  8. TweenselMom Avatar

    Wow, I admire you May for being so detailed in your financial path. I won’t be surprised if you get so affluent in the future years. I hope I will have your patience when it comes to the nitty gritty part of this financial education.

  9. Rochelle Rivera Avatar

    This is a very interesting topic. Thanks for sharing! :-)

  10. Michelle Avatar

    Mommy May, this is so informative! I wonder how got into joining the Money 4 Life Sessions with Mr. Aya? Parang gusto ko rin mag-join next time (kung meron pa). I still want to learn a whole lot more. Though like you, our family’s also investing in MF na rin and SVUL of the husband from SunLife. While my son’s insurance naman is invested or purchase from another company naman. I am planning to get myself an insurance na din kasi we never know naman ang buhay knock on wood. That’s my next goal. Hihi. By th way, I’ll be downloading Wally app. Haha! Ang tagal ko nang naghahanap ng effective expenses tracker app. I should start monitoring our expenses na ulit.

    1. May De Jesus-Palacpac Avatar
      May De Jesus-Palacpac

      I’m not sure if they are still accepting for this class, but I’ll inform them. :) But I do know that They’re going to have another class after this one. This workshop is a series of classes kasi, I think 6 meetings. So when they get done with this one, I think they have plans to have another one.

  11. Courtney Gillard Avatar
    Courtney Gillard

    I think tracking expenses really matters. Some people think that tracking is not important but it is.

  12. Berlin Avatar

    I love this post a lot. Learned so much that i would want to put into writing my short and long term goals. It will also help if I also take note of out expenses on the daily basis. Thanks for sharing

  13. Cheryl F Avatar

    This is such a good read. I do jot down expenses too when I became a mother. I think I’ve used 3 log books already. This wally app might be a big help. I have been wanting to start an investments too. It’s been months na yata akong isip ng isip if I should go with BDO or not since I have accounts there. ‘Save before spend’, dala2 ko yan everyday makapagsave lang :)

    1. May De Jesus-Palacpac Avatar
      May De Jesus-Palacpac

      According to Aya Laraya, we shouldn’t put all our eggs in one basket. So why don’t you look into other options too, Cheryl? :)

  14. monica Avatar

    Ah, such a good read! I’ve been meaning to get a financial advisor to actively work on our investments and make sure we’re on the right track. Thanks for the 7 tips!

    1. May De Jesus-Palacpac Avatar
      May De Jesus-Palacpac

      You’re welcome, Monica!

  15. Wildish Jess Avatar

    We really need to work on getting a financial advisor to help with our finances!

  16. Chessy Avatar

    Sayang I wasn’t able to go to this event. Proved to be very informative. I must admit though, that not having a regular income makes me scared to plot down my finances. But I know that I should do these tips, in order to be ready for the future!

    1. May De Jesus-Palacpac Avatar
      May De Jesus-Palacpac

      Hi Chessy! Look into mutual funds because the beauty of it is that there’s no specific date to deposit. You can deposit any time or whenever you have the means to deposit. Plus minimum is 1K only. :)

  17. Mywondermom Avatar

    Start with short-term goals. It makes sense. “Will your money do what you want it to do?” This article made me really think about our financial plans and decisions. Good read. :)

  18. CourtneyLynne Avatar
    CourtneyLynne

    Ahhhh yes!!! If you balance everything a keep your kind on your goals and dreams they will happen :)

  19. Tiffany Yong Avatar

    I’m familiar with your tips as I follow most of them myself, but the part on put a price on my goals is some food for thought. I forgot to do that and that is something to think about~

  20. Joy Mendiola Avatar

    I’m under Sunlife insured since 2001.

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